sex ed monday: porn, masturbation and the DESTRUCTION of humanity

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so today’s monday, our favorite day!! why would monday be anyone’s favorite day, you maybe asking yourself. well, around here monday is the day sam and will have sex ed in school! sadly enough today is the last monday of the program, but we learned a whole lot of sexshaming things today in the freshman class at the high school!

as we learned last week, any sexual activity before marriage will cause disaster in your life.  as soon as you have sexual relations with a person, you automatically destroy any relationship you had with that person to begin with.  if you have sex with your girlfriend, she will break up with you before climax; same goes for boyfriend.  if you are just friends w someone and you think they are hot and you wanna smooch them and that leads to sex, your friendship is then void.  all relationships outside of marriage are never going to work out once you have done the horizonal shuffle.  this is actually the opposite of true.  depending on the ppl and  the relationship, a healthy sex life can actually encourage couples to stay together.  chemicals released during sex and physical interactions*:

  • This is the first stage of love and is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen – in both men and women.
  • Adrenaline: The initial stages of falling for someone activates your stress response, increasing your blood levels of adrenalin and cortisol. This has the charming effect that when you unexpectedly bump into your new love, you start to sweat, your heart races and your mouth goes dry.
  • Dopamine:  This chemical stimulates ‘desire and reward’ by triggering an intense rush of pleasure. It has the same effect on the brain as taking cocaine!
  • Serotonin: One of love’s most important chemicals that may explain why when you’re falling in love, your new lover keeps popping into your thoughts.
  • Oxytocin is a powerful hormone released by men and women during orgasm.   It probably deepens the feelings of attachment and makes couples feel much closer to one another after they have had sex. The theory goes that the more sex a couple has, the deeper their bond becomes.
  • Vasopressin: another important hormone in the long-term commitment stage and is released after sex. Vasopressin (also called anti-diuretic hormone) works with your kidneys to control thirst. Its potential role in long-term relationships was discovered when scientists looked at the prairie vole.

    Prairie voles indulge in far more sex than is strictly necessary for the purposes of reproduction. They also – like humans – form fairly stable pair-bonds.  When male prairie voles were given a drug that suppresses the effect of vasopressin, the bond with their partner deteriorated immediately as they lost their devotion and failed to protect their partner from new suitors.

also, pornography is a very bad evil thing, that also leads to disaster.  our good friend webster master of all meanings defines pornography as:

por·nog·ra·phy (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/pornography)

 noun \-fē\

: movies, pictures, magazines, etc., that show or describe naked people or sex in a very open and direct way in order to cause sexual excitement

Full Definition of PORNOGRAPHY

1
:  the depiction of erotic behavior (as in pictures or writing) intended to cause sexual excitement
2
:  material (as books or a photograph) that depicts erotic behavior and is intended to cause sexual excitement
3
:  the depiction of acts in a sensational manner so as to arouse a quick intense emotional reaction pornographyof violence>
ok so pretty much anything that makes you tingly betwix your legs is pornography.  due to the wide range of human sexuality, this can include pinatas, smurfs,  pretty much every beer commercial, national geographic, and classic art.
why is pornography bad?  well, when you see/read/hear pornography it makes you feel sexual desire, which is the root of ppl going and having sex which will ruin your life!
here is the real deal according to logic and well, science and thousands of years of ppl having sex….
sex is a natural process, like urination and defecation, eating, breathing, feeling.  it is normal.  it feels good for a reason.  being curious about sex is also a normal thing for ppl to experience.  it is healthy.  figuring out what your body feels like or how it reacts to certain stimuli is a part of knowing yourself as a whole person.
so why all the negative nastiness if sex is something that our bodies were built for?  the answer may make you a bit angry but it is the truth.  the abrahamic religions (judaism, christianity and islam) are where the vilification of sex derives from.   before the introduction of these doctrines sex was something that was openly practiced and encouraged, after all, it’s where babies come from and it feels good!  in most cultures there were goddesses that were specifically sex/fertility goddesses.  in ancient greece, and many other places, their were priestesses who initiated men into sexuality, teaching them how to do it right.
why is it that all of a sudden sex became a bad thing?  why the shame and guilt?  for the most part, learned ppl believe that this happened in correlation with the destruction of the goddess in abrahamic traditions-originally and in some current texts there are goddess references.  then things to a huge turn toward the purity of man and the seductive ways of the feminine.  had eve not tempted adam, shit woulda been real different.  women can’t be trusted, and when given power of any kind they are going to not only destroy themselves but they are out to take all men down w them.  due to their inferiority in cognition and mental capabilities, the only tool left in their arsenal is sex.  ever noticed the only women really discussed in the bible are virgins or whores?
if having sex with another person is bad, then wouldn’t masturbation be the best thing ever, the best way to keep ppl from doing “IT” until they are firmly married?  i say yes!  i say masturbation is normal and natural and you can’t get you pregnant or give yourself any diseases.  also, learning your own body before introducing someone else to it, is the best way to have a good physical sex life.  but the greater society, steeped in all it’s christian traditions, think that if males masturbate and have an orgasm they will never get over it, it will become an uncontrollable urge, leaving them open to the evilness of the feminine.  women are not supposed to enjoy sex at all.  it is supposed to be a duty that she does in servitude to her husband, a way to produce offsprings and that is all.   a woman who knows the power of an orgasm is going to be so overcome she will never stay faithful to her husband, which is why many many many thousands of women across the globe are forcibly, and sometimes voluntarily through tradition .and shame, circumcised having all exterior genitals removed.  if a woman has no clitoris, she can have no orgasm (sorry wrong there a little thing called the gspot) and therefore she will not go and have sex with every man in the world.
why is this philosophy destructive?   it shames ppl for natural reactions to chemicals produced by their own bodies.   while the ideal of sex=love is quite flowery and lovely, it is really irrational.  just because someone is attracted to someone physically does not mean they should be stuck spending the rest of their life with them.  a girl having a nice pair of tits, really is not the best reason to marry her, just bc a guy is a passionate lover doesn’t mean he’s a swell guy.  sex does not equal love, although it can be a great way to express that emotion, it is not that emotion.  teaching ppl that what their body does and doesn’t do in response to stimuli is oppressive.
porn can be a very useful tool.  it can instruct and help a person learn about themselves.  also, if a person is taught that masturbation is ok, they are really less likely to go and have sex, they are releasing all by themselves.  when we stop making sex taboo and shameful and something to feel guilty about, we decrease unwanted pregnancies, the spread of sexually transmitted diseases, and body issues.  when a person thinks their body is sinful or dirty or nasty it causes neurosis and many emotional and mental illnesses can stem from that.  to masturbate is to love yourself!  and that can never be a bad thing!

 

2 comments

  1. Pingback: This Is What Teenage Girls Were Taught About Masturbation In 1918 | Missy Jubilee's sex blog
    • cakeleevannila · October 1, 2013

      thank you for the link! for a long time, until rather recent history women would go to the dr for hysteria and the dr would “cure” her by making her have an orgasm, but that is not what it was called it was called curing an illness…wow! this was like in the 50’s. now we have all sorts of masturbators for all kinds of ppl. when we found out that our oldest son was looking for pornish stuff on the internet, he google searched “hott gurlz in thawngs” (hot girls in thongs) and we saw that. it is normal of course he wants to look at pretty girls in provocative clothing, but we wanted him to have privacy and also to not put viruses on the computer so we sat down and showed him how to find good sites to look at and how to clear the history. i think he was all obsessed with it for about 3 weeks then it was like ok i am over it. it was the same for the rest of my children. we can talk about anything!!!

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