being a member of the queer community for me is a blessing in many ways. i love my queer culture and history and my comrades. what i am not proud of is outting of any sort. outting is dangerous!!! we have no right to do that. any person has the right to not be open with their sexuality or gender. it is not an obligation of queer ppl to disclose anything about themselves to anyone else and if they chose to never tell anyone they are queer or gender variant they are not turning their backs on other queers, they are not feeling safe and not ready to express that.