i wish i could say to my children that bullying will end when they are adults, grown up, established in a job, have a family of their own, and all that jazz, but i have this weird moral compass that refuses to allow me to lie to ppl, especially my kids.
there is going to be someone that is jealous of them somewhere at all times. and just bc you reach the magical age of reason and rationale does not mean that you are going to use those qualities to navigate through the world. childhood bullies grow up to become adult bullies. and usually children bully bc they are bullied at home, leaving them powerless in a great majority of their life, therefore they reach for validation in other areas by pushing other ppl around. it is a cycle of abuse leaving millions of bodies in the wake of the torture.
one thing we have done here is to discuss it openly. we talk about the underlying causes of bullying and the long term effects that it has not only on the victim but on the bully also. i encourage my children to take a stand for those they see being hunted. sweeping this problem under the rug and excusing behavior bc boys will be boys or that is just what girls do, is telling everyone this is ok, it’s acceptable, it’s expected, and stop your bellyachin! this rite of passage leaves scars on bodies, forces hands down throats, slices wrists, leaves kids turning to any means of numbness. it is not a viable option for health and prosperity. it is in fact torture.