hiv/aids is a scary deal. it is not a pretty picture to watch someone you love get incredibly ill, systems breaking down and their body turning against them. it is hard, and incredibly sad. that being said, the consistent and correct use of condoms is, aside from abstinence, the only good way to prevent hiv and other std’s.
despite the stigma of hiv being a gay illness, it is transmitted through body fluids coming into contact with mucus membranes. this means anyone with body fluids who is hiv positive can infect anyone with mucus membranes, although the amount of hiv in sweat and saliva is minimal and there is no evidence that a person can become infected through spit of sweat or mosquito bites. hiv can be spread from person to person via oral, vaginal and anal sex. gay ppl are not more likely to get hiv than any other person having unprotected sex of any kind.
even though science has recognized this fact, religious right legislation continues to place the blame of hiv at the feet of the lgbtqa community. it is demonized as a gay illness or a lighting bolt by god to strike down the promiscuous and sexually active. therefore, public sexual education and training is ignored and rarely offered. most states rely on abstinence only sex ed. many times falsify facts about the effectiveness of condoms, which does not stop sex but does stop ppl from using condoms during sex or using them incorrectly. when condoms are used correctly and consistently the spread of hiv and other std’s are halted almost entirely. there are many ppl who have protected sex with hiv positive ppl and stay negative because they used condoms.
when i see legislation against lgbtqa ppls such as not being able to donate blood or organs or an hiv positive person going to prison for having protected sex, i think it is disgusting and continues to play into creating the illusion that gay ppls are the carriers of the hiv virus and are more prone to becoming positive-which is not true at all. it is discrimination and radically demoralizing. all blood and organs are screened before transplant or infusion. the reason for this is because many illnesses can be transmitted through these processes, and it is not only gay ppl who carry the illnesses but all ppl. there are no special gay organs or blood. there are no special straight organs or blood. blood and organs are pretty much universally the same and if you have compatible types, it doesn’t matter who it comes from, it is compatible. those who have tested hiv positive should have the decency to disclose this information to any partner, but should it be mandated by the law? i am not sure. for one thing, there are many ppl who are not aware they are positive, and if they are careful and responsible….i mean if i found out that i had a partner that was positive and knew and didn’t tell me before hand, i would be upset, but it is also my responsibility to make sure that when i engage in sexual activity i am doing it proactively safe.
instead of spending money on creating laws and prosecuting ppls and perpetrating ignorance and discrimination, we should be putting more money into safe sex education and free access to birth control and condoms. we should be informing every single human being the real cause for the spread of hiv and std’s and how to protect themselves. our society should make hiv and std testing free and accessible to everyone, despite sexual orientation. without these true life methods, the spread of hiv and other std’s are going to continue.